It is a well-documented phenomenon that women are one of the hardest mysteries to solve in the entire universe, next to, oh, I don’t know, dark energy and the Higgs Boson! Even Doc Brown from Back to the Future had absolutely no idea how to handle the strange creatures that are women, and bear in mind that he had built an entire time machine from scratch. Sure, that film may well be fiction but the principle of it is the same: Throughout the world, there are men who are nothing short of geniuses, solving complex mathematical, philosophical and scientific problems, achieving artistic greatness, or building stunning machines, buildings and bridges…
Yet when it comes to women, these geniuses, the leaders of the human species as an intellectual powerhouse, are absolutely stumped. To these men, logic, problems and even art can be understood. It seems to make perfect sense. What you see is what you get. An apple is an apple; an orange is an orange. Two plus two will always equal four. These things are guaranteed and constant.
Women don’t seem to operate based on raw logic. One minute they are up, the next they are down. One minute they like you, the next they are completely turned off. When you first go up to a woman with the intention of starting a relationship with her, and you don’t know how to attract women, you will quite understandably get the impression that they are very cold indeed.
However, there are logical reasons for everything. Even with the illogical, irrational creatures that women at first seem to be, there are concrete scientific reasons behind their ‘games’, as many beginners to the pickup scene tend to phrase it. On a fundamental level, it comes down to evolution. While men can theoretically have children with as many women as they want, women only have a limited number of children they can bear, and it takes a lot of resources (their body, for one) to rear a baby properly.
So what does that have to do with attracting women? Well, it has everything to do with it, because our brains and our instincts are the same even if we don’t necessarily operate in the old ‘ancestral environment’ for which we evolved. Evolution hasn’t ‘caught up’ with the modern world. Due to the limits on the number of children she can have, and the inevitable drain on her body, women have evolved to be far more picky than men when it comes to selecting a potential mate. Men don’t tend to be very choosy – the more the better for them – whereas women prefer to have one very strong, very ‘high value’ man who can stick around, excite her and protect her with his strength. You may have heard of the term ‘alpha male’ thrown around everywhere in the pickup industry. Well, this is what I am referring to, in old evolutionary terms, ‘the tribal leader’. This is essentially what attracts women, so to attract women, you simply need to adopt the traits of a leader.
This is of course easier said than done. You don’t go from playing Warcraft for 10 years in your mom’s basement to suddenly a major pimp the next day, just because you read an article on the internet telling you to become a tribal leader. When you go out and first talk to girls via a cold approach, these women are very good at sniffing out who is a real tribal leader (they get turned on), and who is just faking it (they get turned off). Women do this via the subtle ‘games’ they play; often they don’t even know they are doing it, let alone why they are doing it. One little ‘game’ or ‘test’, as many pickup artists call it, is to simply be rude when you first approach her. This is not because she is inherently rude, she automatically screens out the real leaders from the fakers: It’s a very efficient, albeit when you are starting out, quite brutal method.
If you go up to a girl and you have been playing Warcraft in your mom’s basement for the last 10 years, you will undoubtedly be nervous, even if you’re trying to hide it. Women have extremely sharp senses and they can smell fear from a mile off. A man who is a leader does not fear women, because he is used to many beautiful women in his life. So first of all, eliminating fear itself and simply getting comfortable through repeated exposure is the best way to start. This is easier said than done, though, as it will require hundreds of train-wreck approaches to even begin to get that covered. Assuming you make it this far, you might be comfortable, but you might not be exciting enough for a woman to see herself with you. Leaders tend to be inspiring, charismatic, cool and emotionally strong. They have personality, but they do it on their terms. They make people laugh, but they’re not a dancing monkey. Think along the lines of James Bond, how slick that guy is.
It’s very difficult to suddenly ‘become’ this super charismatic guy if you are not that guy. The first option is to fake it, but fake it so well that even a woman can’t necessarily tell that you’re faking it; this will require a lot of practise, a lot of pre-practised canned routines and a lot of exposure to talking to women. This is the basic premise of the ‘Mystery Method’. The advantage of this method is that if done correctly, you can be technically a ‘loser’ but with practise like an actor, you can ‘perform’ to women and attract them consistently. You can become a pimp, without necessarily being a pimp, if that makes sense. The disadvantage of this method is that it is very difficult to act convincingly and you can often feel quite empty even if you do get the girl, because she doesn’t know and love you, she just knows and loves an illusion.
The second option – the better option – is to actually be that leader. This means, quite simply, sorting out your life. Any bad habits, low self-esteem or other mental hangups, poor physical health and anything else that is making you unhappy – they all need to be promptly and effectively addressed. Once you overcome problems and get successes, this has the knock-on effect of increased confidence, which is of course a fundamental trait of a genuine leader. Once you have ‘cleaned up the mess’ in your life, you should then seek to enhance your personality by taking on new challenges, new adventures, developing new skills and always expanding your comfort zones, in order to gain fresh perspective on life and actually be an exciting person that women are thrilled to be around. By actively working on your life and getting success, women will be able to sense that genuine confidence in you when you walk up to them, and it will be less about what you say and more about what you are.
That, in a nutshell, is how to attract women. (Via http://howtoattractwomenfast.com/)